July 27

Hey Boomer – Keep Busy in Your Own Mind

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Once retirement comes around a lot of us have already forgotten what lights us up. Baby Boomers are now in a position to look back to see how to move forward in the best way possible.Our ageing population is set to regain their passion, for the benefit of all.

We can't work and wipe babies bums all the time

I was a Dad early in life and also very ambitious. (maybe they are connected? Hahaha)

There I was, going to university, four part-time jobs and trying to work out how not to make the same mistakes that my parents made. The arrogance and ego were overflowing and glorious.

This was the roaring eighties and I was in a hurry to show the world who the hell Mike Mather was. I didn't have a clue who he was, let alone who he was to become. Looking back now with whatever memory I have left, I wish I could tell young Mike to "Slow the fuck down!".

That son I was raising then is now a father and it is hard not to try to put my old head on top of his shoulders and force him to be the better Dad that I wanted to be. It is his time to do the fathering thing and the best I can do is watch with a loving eye as it all unfolds.

One of the inspiring writers whom I follow is Leo Babauta of Zen Habits fame. And he says,

"In the end, they will be the person they are. You don’t get to decide who that is - ". 

This is true for my son and HIS son.

An ageing population being kids?

As we age, I think it's fair to say that we become a bit more reflective. Think about what it was like for you as a boy or girl. What were you fascinated about?

What did you dream about?

Where were your interests? Sport? Art? Science, maybe?

If you were brought up in a religious home then you might have wondered a lot about God.

 Whatever interested you then, it's nice in these latter years to reflect and 'see' those thoughts from an older perspective. You have been through many experiences and read a lot since then.

To Do

  • Make a list of 4 things that were interesting to you as a child and contemplate.
  • Can you resurrect these interests now?
  • If not, why not?
  • If so, when?


If travel is your thing then check out this article.

Two blue deck chairs on a beach

Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash


Things that others do with their time that you admire

Now, what are the things that other people do that are fascinating to you?

There are a million and one things that the internet has made more accessible for us all.

Other-peoples interests can fall into several broad categories -


Crafts
Education
Creativity
Physicality
Spirituality


Depending on how capable your mind and body are now, choose one or two and decide for yourself

  •  What is most appealing and 
  • Do something about it. 
  • Do it now.
  • Make a start on a new adventure.

If you have spent the last 40 years watching movies then maybe it's time you joined the local theatre troupe?

When you love timber products it might indicate that woodwork is what you would enjoy doing? These things can cost very little and bring such a lot of joy to your life.


If you have spent the last 40 years watching movies then maybe it's time you joined the local theatre troupe?
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If You're in Retirement - begin at once

My Geekbot asks me these q's every day

I have programmed my Slack 'Geekbot' to ask me the same four questions everyday - to keep me a little focused on what matters.

  1. What are you grateful for?
  2. How will your efforts benefit others?
  3. Will you benefit long-term from what you do today?
  4. Is there anything blocking your progress?

In this way I have been able to maintain a forward focus.

Thomas Frank speaks about having a schedule and aiming for 1% improvement. This is my method of not expecting huge overnight success in any endeavor, but rather, a subtle nourishing of the mind. For more on self-nourishing here is a great read.


Join others who are like you

Who are you waiting for?

Wait a minute! OTHERS are a great idea!

Join a group on like-minded individuals. Joining a club or an online support community is easier now than ever before. Maybe you are living in an Over 50's community and don't even realize that there are folks with similar interests.

There are local libraries with notices all around. Even the local mall or supermarket could be hiding in plain view your next community group.

Reddit and Quora are a great way to begin to explore your interest. Just ask.

You may also find that the very group that you want to join is on Facebook. Try searching in Pinterest for you chosen hobby or adventure. There is bound to be someone there.


Boomer Mum and daughter enjoying a photo album

Photo by Cottonbro on Pexels


It's an Inside Job

When I was young I was keen to explore and conquer. The world seemed full of potential excitement, reward, and challenge. But I was too young to realize that the greatest challenge, the highest rewards, and the most excitement was to be found within me.

I sign off this article with a bit more from Leo Babauta. I hope you find whatever you are looking for - with a deep dive into the recesses of your memory, and a contemplation of your mind.

"What we really want can’t be found outside of us:

  • A sense of connection & belonging
  • A sense of fun, play, adventure, joy, excitement
  • A sense of being good enough, lovable, desirable
  • Feeling fit, strong, beautiful, sexy
  • Feeling safe, secure, stable
  • A feeling of peace and freedom

Where does that come from? We create it, from within."


"But I was too young to realize that the greatest challenge, the highest rewards, and the most excitement was to be found within me"

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